Have you written a letter to your future self before? Back in the early 2010s, I came across the Yahoo! Time Capsule, where users could contribute to a digital legacy of how life was in 2006, which would be opened at a later date. I then came up with the idea of writing a letter to your future self, where you write a personal note to your future self, seal it, and then open it at a future date. There are no restrictions on how far you should project your letter to — you can write to your future self 1 year, 3 years, 5 years, or even 10 years from now!
Why Write a Letter To Your Future Self?
Doing this exercise can be a really insightful experience.
Imagine writing to your future self 5 years from now — what would you say? What kind of person would you be? What goals would you want to have achieved? Not only is it mind boggling, but it gets you thinking about your goals 5 years from now. As you write your letter, you will start to think about the actions you should take to realize them in your expected time frame.
Subsequently when you open your letter 5 years down the road, you get to assess the things that match (or don’t match) up vs. your expectations, and reflect why that’s the case. Often times, our goals are subject to a lot of changes due to unanticipated circumstances and changing priorities. Reading your letter lets you see how your life trajectory has changed since writing it. It also makes you pause and think about how you are doing, and whether you are where you want to be in life.
In addition, when you write your letter, your consciousness and thoughts are stored in your words. When you read it, it’s like you are being contacted by the old you. It provides you a different perspective and lets you see how much you have changed since then. 🙂
How to Write Your Letter
While you can write to your future self from any time period, I recommend to start with a one year time frame. This way, it’s easier to envision your goals, and it also gives you a comfortable time frame to take action.
Refer to today’s date.
- Imagine writing to your future self exactly a year from now. What do you want to say to him/her? Some consideration points:
- What do you want to be one year from now?
- What are the goals and dreams you want realized by then?
- What is your desired status for the areas on your life wheel? Career/Business/Studies? Money/Wealth? Family? Friends? Love? Health? Spirituality? Recreation? Contribution? Self-Image?
- Once you’re done, sign off with your name and today’s date.
- Keep your letter in a safe place.
- Put the papers in an envelope. Seal it.
- On the cover, write “To [Your Name]. To be opened on [Date].” Replace “[Your Name]” with your name, with “[Date]” the date that’s one year from now.
- Set an appointment in your calendar to open your letter one year from now.
- Put this envelope in a safe place where no one can access it.
- In this one year, work hard on your goals and vision! Then open and read your letter one year from today. 🙂
For your letter format, you can either write a physical letter or type it. I used to write my letters using pen and paper, but I’ve since switched to typing and printing the final copy (this way I have a backup if anything happens).
You can use FutureMe.org, a service that helps you send your message to your desired email address at any point in the future. Personally I recommend to write your letter on your computer and store it, rather than using such a service. With an external service, you never know who has access to your letters, and your letter will be gone if the service gets shut down.
Opening My Letter From My Past Self
Back in 2008, on February 10, I wrote two letters to myself. The first letter was to my future self one year from then, on February 10, 2009. The second letter was to my future self 5 years later, on February 10, 2013.
A year later on February 10, 2009, I opened my first letter. It was interesting seeing what I was like in the past and how much I have changed. One of the biggest changes was my materialistic tendencies. While I was not a very materialistic person when I wrote my letter in 2008 (I was 23 years old then), I became less materialistic since, given my revelations on my relationship with material wealth and goods. My consciousness was also higher as I had been working a lot on my growth.
In terms of goals, I had reached and exceeded several goals. Weight-wise, I had reached my desired weight/look, something I was really proud of as losing weight was something that I had struggled with for years. For Career, I leaped ahead of my predictions — in my letter, I predicted that I would still be working in my ex-company while working on my purpose on the side. As it turned out, I had quit my job and started working on my purpose full time! 🙂
There were some goals I had not reached yet. For example for Love, I thought that I would have found my relationship partner by then, but I had not. This wasn’t an issue as I came to the realization that we are already perfect as singles (I would later meet my soulmate, now husband in 2013). In terms of Friendship, some friends whom I thought I would still be on great terms with had slipped away. Instead, I formed great friendships with other people in the past year. In a way, it’s like a natural equilibrium — when you let go of certain old connections, new connections will take their place.
There were goals that I didn’t reach as I abandoned them halfway, because they lost meaning to me. An example, buying a car. When I received a pay rise last year and was able to consider getting a car, I realized that owning a car in Singapore, where public transport is readily available, does not resonate with my highest self. My original intent of getting a car was more for image reasons — which is true for many car owners in Singapore — and that desire had long been shed, along with my old self. Not to mention, having a car isn’t exactly environmentally friendly.
All in all, reading my letter made me realize several things. It made me more conscious of how I have changed vs. the past (vs. just relying on memory). It reminded me of some of my past visions that I lost track of along the way. It made me appreciate how far I have come. It made me look forward to the future. 😀
Subsequently, I opened my 5-year letter and share my results in here: Writing a Letter to Your Future Self [Video]
Write Your Letter To Your Future Self
Grab your pen and paper now and start writing your letter to your future self! Identify a time period to write to, imagine what you would be like, and then start writing! Think about the kind of person you would like to be, what you would want to be doing, what you would have accomplished by then, and so on.
Follow the steps in the exercise above. Get working on your goals, then open your letter with pride a year from now! 🙂
Update Aug 2014: I’ve created a video tutorial on writing a letter to your future self, where I share more tips plus open my 5-year letter to myself! Watch: Writing a Letter to Your Future Self [Video]
For those of you with Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program, the task for Day 29 is on writing a letter to your future self.
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Dear Future Me,
First of all, I’m going to expect your life is really cool right now, because if it isn’t, all of this college crap wasn’t worth it. I’m going to hope you have a job, because if not, again: college=crap.
I hope you are happy. I hope you choose happiness every day. I hope you are eliminating people and things that make you unhappy from your life. Because it’s not worth your time if it’s not making you happy. I hope you’re not at some job you hate. I hope you’re not miserable waking up every morning. And if you are, do me a favor: change something. Change whatever is making you unhappy. Choose happiness.
I hope you have traveled. If not, I am extremely disappointed in you. I hope you have been to Ireland, and to Italy, and to Greece. I hope you have been to California, and South Carolina, and all over the U.S. by now. If you haven’t, what are you doing with your life? (I’m going to guess you’re still poor).
I hope you still know how amazing our family is. I hope that you still know that family comes before everything else. I hope you still know that family will always be there for you, every single time. I hope you call mom every day or visit if you still live in Syracuse. I hope you visit our siblings as much as possible. Don’t let being busy be an excuse, make time. I hope you tell them we love them every chance you get.
I hope you’re living every day like it’s your last. I hope you remember that life is short, really short. I hope you don’t take it for granted. I hope you don’t wish away your days like I am now. I hope you embrace every moment. I hope you remember that life is precious.
Depending on when you’re seeing this, future me, you’ve probably lost a lot of important people in your life. You’ve probably lost your grandparents, who are almost 92 at the time I’m writing this. I hope you saw them every chance you got before they were gone. I hope you asked them to tell you stories about their life, and your life with them. I hope you asked them stories about the people you’ve never met. I hope you asked them for their best advice before you couldn’t anymore. I hope you told them you loved them, a million times over. I hope you still think of them often.
I hope you are still learning lessons, and still making mistakes. Because if you’re not, life is probably pretty boring. If you’re not learning lessons and making mistakes it’s probably because you’re not taking risks. If that’s the case, take more risks. Please. I don’t want you (well, me) to regret it down the line when it’s too late.
I’ll be seeing you.